there are some patio tables and an indoor water fountain, where I could read my book. A guy and a gal made their way to the table next to me. I could just tell they weren’t a couple – looked more like father and daughter. The minute they sat down, he started talking and I just had the feeling he was trying to talk her into some kind of belief system. I couldn’t always hear the best, but I did hear him ask her if she had ever heard of Amway, Quixtar, Melaleuca and then told her those were MLM’s and went on the explain what that was. He was trying to get her to buy into the “Market America” way of life. I had to go back to work, so I wasn’t able to hear how their meeting ended.
Personally I get something out of this forum. I was in an MLM once but never got really sucked into it like some. I have seen lots of others get sucked in. I have even attended some of these “opportunity” meetings for other products. Part of what this forum has helped me do is understand the system and context for the MLMs. I can see from the materials presented in the files section and the discussions here the degree to which the MLM is a systematic mind game. It just doesn’t hold up to what is common sense about business or making money. Peopl who are in it are always looking at the horizon for a quick fix and avoiding doing the things that would make them money – like cutting overhead costs, seeking less expensive products to sell, not going to so many seminars but concentrating on selling the products, doing a busines plan, understanding financial statements, depending on the business to generate revenue rather than concentrating on tax benefits and much more.
Did our forum reach out thru the Internet and grab you, forcing you in here? Are you the self-appointed web counselor dispensing unsolicited mental health advice? What does it matter to you if this forum or even the other site you visited is active and what the content might be? If you accidentally happend upon us and we offend you, you do realize that your back button works? What is your connection with mlm?
To tell the truth we see your type of post quite often and it is always some pro-mlmer who is telling us we need to get over it and get on with our life, usually followed by such labels as “loser” and “lazy”. In addition if you plan on quoting Abraham Maslow’s Hierarchy of Needs then it is best to include all 5 levels so his philosophy is not taken out of context.
A special note to PW, you do a great job as owner and moderator of this forum. Ruth was very wise to leave her legacy in your hands.
can be comparred to the forum this girl is running. There is a difference between complaining and offering support. I am very grateful to PW and to the people of this forum. I have never been involved with a MLM, but my 23 year old son is and has been for almost four years. I did not know anybody else that was in a MLM or had ever been in one. Even so, it just sounded like a get rich quick scheme. Since I really didn’t know about Quixtar I decided to get some books on the subject of MLMs. What I read scared the hell out of me. MLMs are much more than a get rich scheme. I really felt a need to talk with others that had experience with MLMs because whenever I talked with family or friends about my concern they just looked at it as a stage my son was going through.
After much searching on the net I found this forum. While I didn’t find a quick way to get my son out of Quixtar (I was hoping I would) I have found people that understand, care, and offer support. It does help to know I’m not alone. PW and others in this forum are providing a service here. I never once thought that those that had been in MLMs hadn’t moved on with their lives. As long as this forum exsists I will read the posts everyday.
I dealt with my own involvement in MLM by needing to stay connected to this forum for awhile and unsubscribed when I no longer needed it and also felt I wasn’t adding anything. Then one of my SIL’s got involved with an MLM and I rejoined for support and help in how to deal with her. Then my other SIL got involved in an MLM. My husband now deals daily with a Nikken distributor pushing his wares on him at work. My next door neighbor who swears she can’t stand MLMs was doing PPL and Stampin’ up and is constantly inviting me to parties, etc, etc.
I look at this forum as I do parenting. I don’t know it all and even the areas that I am well versed in, it always helps to recharge and refresh my knowledge so I am better prepared to respond appropriately. As a recovering alcoholic will always need their support, so do many who gave their lives over to MLM and got out.
I appreciate PWs efforts as moderator in keeping this forum healthy. It takes time/effort and often comes with a lot of negativity directed towards you. Oh and the pay stinks too..lol. It really is not easy to maintain a forum with healthy boundaries, especially one of this size.
My mom was the last family member I had in an mlm. Now her and my dad are out completely. They are enjoying a type of lifestyle now that they never could while they were in amway. Technically my need here is “done” as I no longer have family involved. Understand though that by my way of looking at things I still feel the need to stay connected and hopefully help someone else, even if it just providing comic relief by saying something dumb :).
I believe I owe the people of this forum a debt by helping me when no one else understood my pain and frustration. I intend to do that for a long time to come. It doesn’t dominate my life, but it is important as this forum has helped me heal and enjoy my life better, and has also helped me heal a rift in my relationship with my mother, father and the rest of my family. My parents just spent two weeks here and didn’t mention the “Business” once. We all had a great time for the first time in thirteen years. I am only 35. Almost one third of my life and pretty much all my adult life has been impacted by mlm. As long as this forum is here to help people in need, I will continue to support it in any way I can.
I hope this helps you put some of this in perspective. Sorry about the length of this post.
to help warn people about the abusive mlm industry. If I drive my car down a road that has a sign that states it’s a superhighway and after traveling a short distance I drive off a cliff instead, you can bet I’m going to stand at the entrance to that “superhighway” and try to wave other drivers off. This club along with several other anti sites have successfully kept 6 would be recruits I have sent to them from joining an mlm and by God it’s worth it even if it was just 1. I’m relatively active in this club and I spend about 10-15 minutes each day reading the posts and occaisionally responding but that doesn’t mean that I don’t have many hobbies and activities which have nothing to do with scams or even the Internet. I will gladly move on when the last mlm gets shut down.
though I do not participate very often, need this forum just to stay connected to those of which I may need their help one day.
Simply because I have a best friend/sister in the AmQuix, and I am always hopeful that one day she will wake up and I will be there with the right things to say when she does..and I will know what the right things are to say are because every day I read everyone’s post here. So, no matter, whatever the reason for people’s continued posting, if even to vent, it is a much needed arena. At least as long as AmQuix and companies like them exist.
I, for one, joined this forum for help with understanding what had happened over the course of my 5+ years of involvement in MLM and what I was likely to expect in the future. This forum helped me and my wife in that regard. The previous owner of this forum had been involved in Amway and various MLM web sites and discussion forums for about 15 years when she decided to move on to other things entirely.
She had been involved in a lot of unseen efforts to expose the abuses of AQMO organizations and their equivalents in other MLM companies. So the breadth of her activities were (and could still be) wider than (for instance) mine. I simply moderate a couple of online forums about MLM. Hardly something that dominates my day.
But I do appreciate the notion of “moving on.” There’s an old adage about getting on the boat to go across the river and how useless being on the boat can get if you never get off on the other side of the river.
But neither you nor I define what “the other side” is for anyone here. It is a personal thing, not something that can be dictated. So for this forum, it’s best, I think, that we are simply here and that people can come and go as they think best.
But if you think *I* should be one who moves on, we can talk about ownership and moderation duties of this forum. I mostly enjoy doing this, but I could let it go if I knew someone would continue it in a responsible way. That’s the main reason Ruth entrusted me with this forum. She knew I wouldn’t ruin it. I intend to honor her trust in me, and I hope to follow the same path with the next owner.
(Until there are no more victims of MLM, this forum will need to exist, and there will need to be someone responsible at is helm.)
and those who lead self-help and recovery forums such as AA or drug rehab facilities? Do you think people who provide such services i.e. payday loans from gshloans inc are, somehow, unable to get over something? Personally, I find your statement overly broad, and perhaps a bit condescending. Maybe if you were a member here for a bit longer period of time, such a comment might go over a bit more gracefully.
If you have a web site up and you post stuff without much conversation or interaction, then the exercise can be seen as self-serving.
A simple numbers comparison is all that is necessary to show you the apples-vs.-oranges nature of your contention:
How many people are impacted by the girl and her ex-boyfriend, their words and actions?
I have gotten Google Alerts from people named “Amway.” You’re right – there’s something wrong with that.
In this forum, we have a large member list that is growing every day. Granted, lots of the new members are spammers who joined but have not posted (yet), but there are many who join simply to read the messages and not necessarily participate. And if they DO participate, there are people here to interact with them.
So are you suggesting that there should be a forum with no regular participants? No one who develops strategies to help those who may need help? No one to answer the questions that we see here nearly every single day? The clueless helping the clueless is what you’re suggesting? (I was going to use “blind,” but I thought “clueless” was cuter.)
I saw forum the other day that centered around someone’s exboyfriend of 4 years ago. And it was still active! She stated that the website had a “higher purpose” to protect others from the pain she went through. From reading the comments though, it was mostly about continued revenge against the ex (the actions and claims weren’t as congruent as she would like. The cause might be a great one I don’t know, and there’s nothing necessarily “wrong” with it. Be that as it may, I think it’s fair to say that most people wouldn’t associate her continued focus on the subject and running a forum named after the ex with someone being “over their ex”. When continually talking about a person for years and associating the Maslow human need of “connection with others” (via the forum), the topic is continually being reinforced and the assocation with the feelings keep strong like a muscle that is exercised.
Is the name of the ex in this case “Amway”? And who the hell named their kid that?
I submit that you’ll know you are “over it” when you’re able to move on and using the ex forum time for something completely fresh and new…for example, piano lessons!
If the goal of being involved in such a forum doesn’t include being able to move on and leave the forum, then I wonder if it’s being used as a distraction. I’m talking to myself here too by the way 🙂
you were sent on joining this forum! Are you playing by OUR rules or are you upset because we don’t play by YOUR rules? This is our ball field. If you don’t like it, then go home!
Bravo. If you’re new, you’re still a guest in our home. Act as one. If you can’t, then you’re letting us know just what kind of people are in your organization.
And overall, VERY WELL said, Paine!
Unlike, for example, QS IBOs (and I’ve said many times how ironic IBO is because they aren’t independent, it’s not a business, and they don’t own squat), who are told to spend all their spare time on recruiting, we have lives. We spend time with our children. We go out and do things without having to watch for prospects. We pay the bills on time and can do it on a job that we can leave behind us at the end of the day.
People come in to this forum and are sent, on joining, an email that explains that. Yet they don’t read it and come in anyway, trying to pull us in with questions like, “Have you tried this? It sounds different,” or direct comments like that we are bitter and have no lives.
But they don’t even read the “Please read before posting” guidelines. It makes you wonder if the MLM people that come in here to recruit or argue can think independently at all or if they’re all brainwashed to the point where they think everyone should be in their way of life.